Interview with International Speaker, Daniel Paikea
From numerous interviews and working in wellbeing I‘ve learnt a few things about resilience and sticking with a goal but when I interviewed Daniel Paikea on these topics his insights were new, refreshing and super practical. Three key topics he spoke about were Stick-ability, Taking Responsibility and Finding Your Potential.
We live in a world where if something is broken we throw it away but if you talked to my grandparents they would share countless stories of fixing, mending and repurposing objects rather than throwing it away. The thought of takeaway cups seems like the strangest thing to their generation, why throw away a cup when you could drink your coffee out of a good old china mug, clean it, wash it and use it again.
I’ve often found that if something is difficult it may seem easier to quit, pack up and move on then stick it out and find a solution. Daniel shared about ‘Intestinal Fortitude’ the ability to keep going and not quitting. It may seem like it goes against everything we are used to as a society but let me explain…
I’ve found this to be true in friendships, relationships and at work. If a relationship becomes hard the easy option is to walk away or break up but what if you were to ask for help, get some counselling and work through the difficulties? The same can be said about work. The countless times I’ve seen people leave a job and start a new role and hope the grass is greener on the other side in a new position astounds me. We need to ask for help if we are stuck and stick it out. I realise this isn’t always possible, but I think that we quit to easily hoping the answer is in something new.
Imagine what you could achieve if you stick with what you are doing and kept going. Half way through my degree I wanted to quit most days but the best thing I ever did was stick it through. Graduation was so rewarding knowing the struggle and sacrifices I made to get there.
It’s so easy to blame someone else for our failures, mood, behaviours and actions. I remember being a child and if I had broken something around the house it was always easier to blame my brother than own up. But what often happened was I’d get found out and lying about it only made matters worse. It’s crucial to own up and take responsibility for our actions, mistakes and failures. I’ve found some of life’s biggest lessons come from when I’ve failed. I’ve owned up, I’ve learnt from it and found one way that it didn’t work, so next time I can adjust and find another solution.
The key to taking responsibility is to apologise and acknowledge what has happened, what was said and what was done. Don’t try and hide under a rock pretending that it didn’t happen. When you don’t take responsibility, you lose the ability to change.
Finding Your Potential
One topic that Daniel shared about during the interview was how to find and unlock your potential. Start by getting around people who have experience in the area that you want to know more about, get a coach, mentor or trainer who can guide, train and equip you. Athletes require dedication, commitment and sacrifice but behind all of their progress and success is a coach supporting, encouraging and mentoring. We unlock our potential by learning, listening and trying new things, often with the guidance of others.
When I was younger I loved the idea of acting but wasn’t sure if I was any good at it or if I had the potential to do well. My parents set me up with a drama coach who taught me the basics of speech, language and drama and in the process unlocked my potential to love acting and drama. This ultimately led me onto doing a Communications degree after high school.
Finding your potential is about trial and error, not everyone is great at everything but finding what you love and are good at is a process. I wasn’t amazing when I first stepped foot into the gym but over the years have seen my potential and strength unfold, through no quitting and sticking with it!
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