Interview with Jordan Maguer
If you’ve watched the Bachelor, you’ll recognise the face of Jordan Mauger from the New Zealand show in 2016. However, while the show is about dating, romance and searching for love, the show ended with NZ labelling Jordan as the most ‘hated man’…what a horrible title to get following a show about love.
Last year I had the opportunity to sit down and discuss with Jordan work, life, the Bachelor and social media. While everything Jordan shared about his life was interesting, his thoughts and experiences around mental health and social media were by far the most insightful…
Here are some key points from the interview:
Real Life vs the Highlight
If you’ve ever been on social media or Instagram you would have seen people living in luxury, having the best day and the most perfect relationships. Jordan shared that this creates a lack of reality, no one’s life is that perfect. Yet, we go on social media, see everyone having a good time and walk away feeling that our life sucks because not every day is perfect in every way.
No one know shows themselves cleaning the toilet, throwing up or losing their job. Social media creates a highlight reel of life, show the best and leaves out the rest. It gives a false sense of reality. The real reality is that everyone has bad days, failures and no one is perfect. Hearing Jordan share his experience of social media was a good reminder that just because we are seeing a highlight reel of someone’s life doesn’t meant that this is a true depiction of life.
Jordan shared during the interview about people who have the confidence behind their computers to write horrible things and leave nasty comments about people they have never met, he called them ‘Key Board Warriors’. After being on The Bachelor NZ Jordan was getting hate comments and negative posts said about him all over social media. People were even writing and commenting that he should go and kill himself. These are extremely confronting words and bullying that is so unnecessary. Jordan said that this slander, not only had an effect on himself but also his family who were reading the comments.
He really wanted people to know that if you have ever been bullied, face to face or via social media, that it’s important to talk to someone you trust about it. It doesn’t have to go on being bullied and you don’t have to struggle with this in silence. It’s crucial to have a support network of friends, whanau and family who can help you, if you are going through a difficult time with bullying. There are many people trolling the internet, waiting to make horrible unnecessary comments but you don’t have to put up with this bullying.
Go Social Media Free
The last interesting takeaway from this interview was more of a reflection on how much time we spend on social media and is this a healthy amount of time. With new apps and technology we are able to gage how much time we are actually spending daily on social media. Limit yourself or even have social media free days. It’s important to put in boundaries around how much time you spend looking, commenting and engaging in social media. For example, you may choose to not check your social media at night before bed or have a day in the weekend where you don’t check social media at all.
Just remember that not everything you read or see people posting on social media is the full picture of their life, it’s often only the best parts and highlight reel. Don’t look at social media and feel down about your own life but put boundaries in place, ask for help and have breaks from social media altogether.
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